Let's be real, navigating the dating world can feel like a minefield, especially on the apps. But what if you had a queer pop icon to give you a few pointers? Well, you're in luck. Troye Sivan recently became the first international host for Bumble's 'Bee Line' series, answering burning questions from users about gay dating, relationships, and what truly makes for a good connection.
The Biggest Conversation Killer
So, what's Troye's number one dealbreaker? It's simpler than you might think: a date who doesn't ask you any questions. When a user described a date who talked endlessly about himself without showing any curiosity, Troye didn't hold back. "I think that's a huge red flag," he said. "This guy honestly sounds like an imposter. And I think you should run for the hills."
His advice is a solid reminder for all of us. A date should be a two-way street, not a monologue. As he put it: "To everyone out there: ask questions on dates. Get it together."
Forget the Mind Games
Are you tired of the 'wait three days to text back' rule? So is Troye. He's not a fan of playing hard to get, arguing that while "everyone likes a bit of a chase," genuine communication is far more important. His philosophy is refreshingly direct: "Don't be crazy. Don't be toxic. Don't be weird," he advises. "If you feel like talking to the person, then you should talk to them." It's all about trusting your gut, not following some outdated playbook.
How to Host the Perfect Home Date
If you're ready to invite your date over, Troye has a whole routine to create the perfect, cozy atmosphere. Take notes!
- Set the mood early: Light a scented candle 15-20 minutes before your guest arrives. Troye's personal preference? "Woody and cozy" scents.
- Lighting is key: He has one strict rule: "No ceiling lighting, especially not on a date." Instead, use lamps and more candles to create a warm, inviting vibe.
- Be a good host: Have drinks and food ready. A pro-tip from Troye: maybe skip the onions and garlic, just in case things go particularly well and you end up kissing.
- Choose your soundtrack: He cheekily suggested putting on his own new album, joking that he's "heard that the music constantly gets people in bed." We see what you did there, Troye.
Navigating the Awkward Stuff
What about those other tricky moments? When it comes to paying the bill, Troye thinks splitting it or taking turns is the fairest approach. And if you're worried your date won't share your passion for Charli XCX or your obscure hyperpop playlist? Don't be. He called his sister for a second opinion, and they both agreed it's not a dealbreaker. In fact, Troye thinks it's "sexy and cool when someone teaches you something about music."
So there you have it. Dating advice that's all about being genuine, curious, and maybe lighting a few well-placed candles. Now, who's ready to update their Bumble profile?
